Fathom 49: Intensely Intentional

 

πŸ‘ΎπŸ‡πŸ”—Key Points, Time Stamps & Relevant Links Follow Each PartπŸ”—πŸ‡πŸ€–


πŸ€“Top 5 Takeaways😎

  1. Intention Drives behaviour
  2. Ahimsa (non-harm) is my guiding principle
  3. Practice non-harm toward Self first
  4. Treat others with empathy, curiosity, and positive intent
  5. Progress comes from continual realignment, not perfection

πŸ€”Main Message🀯

May I use my Intensity, passion, thoughts, words, and Actions to create as little harm as possible — to myself, to others, and to the Universe — and continually realign with that intention whenever I drift. πŸ™πŸ’–πŸ’―


Part 1: Intentionally Intentional

0:05 – 2:10 | The Catalyst

  • Story about a new neighbor describing Summer as:
    • "Intense, but good, I think."
  • Reflection on personal intensity, 'Tism, and authenticity.
  • Key Insight:
    • Use intensity for good, never for harm.

2:10 – 6:45 | Why Intention Matters

  • I've experienced a deepening in this realm from my Previous Musings.
  • Everyone drifts from their Values under stress, fear, or uncertainty; becomes an Asshole at times.
  • Life is nuanced and messy, Prickly; good intentions don't always produce ideal outcomes.
  • Intention provides groundedness to:
    • Purpose
    • Direction (Moral Compass)
    • Course Correction
    • Behavioural Accountability
  • Growth comes through compassionate realignment, not perfection.

6:45 – 8:10 | Introduction to Ahimsa

  • Adoption of Ahimsa as a life-guiding intention.
  • Ahimsa = Non-harm / Non-violence
  • Applies to:
    • Thoughts
    • Emotions
    • Words
    • Behaviors
    • Actions
  • Extends to:
    • Self
    • Others
    • The Universe

8:10 – 12:00 | Origins of the Commitment

  • Personal turning point following a Major Breakup. and Yoga Psychology.
  • Vow to stop contributing negativity to the World.
  • Connection between:
    • Intention
    • Karma
    • Personal Responsibility
  • Recognition that negativity often creates more suffering (Self & Others).


Part 2: Ahimsa Towards Self


0:40 – 1:05 | Self Comes First

  • Cannot sustainably care for others without first caring for Self.
  • Self-compassion creates abundance rather than depletion.

1:05 – 2:20 | Mental Non-Harm

Key idea:


2:20 – 3:20 | Emotional Non-Harm

  • Move away from Shame and self-rejection.
  • Practice repeated Self-Acceptance.
  • Approach growth with patience and compassion.

3:20 – 4:25 | Physical Non-Harm

  • Focus on balanced wellness.
  • Avoid extremes:
    • Under-eating
    • Over-eating
    • Over-exercising
    • Under-exercising
  • Pursue Healthy Discipline that's well balanced.

Part 2: Ahimsa Towards Others


4:25 – 5:15 | Empathy and Non-Harm

  • Extend non-harm toward others.
  • Accept that we cannot Control how others think or feel.

5:15 – 6:10 | Clear Intent Matters

  • When harm occurs:
    • Clarify intent.
    • Communicate openly.
  • Take responsibility for our actions.
  • Do not take responsibility for others' Perceptions.

6:10 – 7:00 | Assume Positive Intent

  • Give people the benefit of the doubt.
  • Avoid assigning malicious motives.

7:00 – 8:00 | Kindness and Curiosity

  • Offer Support rather than judgment.
  • Recognise that negativity often reflects pain.
  • Stay curious about others' motivations.
  • Create space for people to be human.


Part 3: Ahimsa Towards Universe


0:04 – 1:00 | The Driver Analogy

  • Intention is the Driver steering the "Chariot of life."
  • Intention shapes decisions, relationships, and behaviour.

1:00 – 3:20 | Karma and Responsibility

  • Belief in karma and reincarnation.
  • Understanding:
    • We are not the judge.
    • We are not the scorekeeper.
  • Again, focus on personal responsibility rather than judging others.

2:10 – 3:20 | Leave No Harm Behind

  • Life aspiration:
    • Leave as little negative impact as possible.
  • Goal is not reward.
  • Goal is minimizing harm.

Key quote:

"I just don't want to leave any negative impact behind."


3:20 – 4:00 | Environmental Stewardship

  • Reduce single-use plastics.
  • Lower personal carbon footprint.
  • Non-harm includes care for the environment.

4:00 – 6:30 | Everyday Ethical Choices

  • Personal example of resisting unethical behavior.
  • Values and karmic accountability guide decisions.
  • Ethics become a daily practice rather than a rule.

6:30 – 7:40 | The Complete Ahimsa Framework

  • Ahimsa applies at three levels:
    1. Self
    2. Others
    3. Universe

7:40 – 9:35 | Compassion for People and Self

  • Offer:
    • Kindness
    • Encouragement
    • Support
    • Generous curiosity
  • Assume positive intent in others and Self.
  • Even Worrisome thoughts often originate from a desire to keep us safe.

9:35 – 10:15 | Use Our Powers for Good

  • Channel passion, intensity, and energy constructively.
  • Align actions with values.
  • Re-align whenever necessary, as many times as needed, and always with Compassion.

10:15 – 10:39 | Progress Over Perfection

  • Nobody is perfect.
  • Perfection is not required.
  • Consistent Course Correction is success.


Fathom 48: Tumultuous Transformative Tower

 

Part 1: Meandering Miracles of Mystifying Masochism 🌈

  • Another Tarot reflection, one with a particularly confronting and thought-provoking image πŸ€”πŸ˜³
    • My Intention: Demonstrate How a Life-Altering Change Four Years in the Making Manifests, & How we co-create with the Universe πŸ’«
    • Transitioning between Victim & Survival states, and falling into a space where I can finally Thrive, a Safe place I Belong πŸ’©πŸ’
  • What's left once the Tower tumbles? What foundation are we left with? How stable was it? 🀯
    • Four years, four fearsome lightning strikes... all for me to embed Self-Acceptance πŸ™
  • The Four Shattering BoltsπŸ’£
    • My First Strike - I Dared to Leave πŸƒ‍♀️‍➡️πŸ™‰
    • The Universe's Strike Two - The Death, The Guilt, The Grief πŸ˜“πŸ™ˆ


Part 2: What Can Become of Cracked Foundations 😭🌞

  • How we deal with what's beyond our control says a lot about the who we are; The Tower crumbles when we can no longer be that person for our own Health & Development πŸ˜…πŸ‘»
    • Despite many emotions, my Heart had to find a new Wish πŸ’”πŸ’ž
  • The Four Shattering Bolts (Cont'd)πŸ’£
    • Third Strike Overall My Play - Shake shit up, Shanghai here I come! πŸ™ŠπŸŽ‰
    • Fourth & Final Volleyed Back to The Universe - An utterly confounding confrontation of my Valued health via a 'Right Temporal Lobe & Subarachnoid Hemorrhage' πŸ§ πŸ’©πŸ˜¨
  • I'm left with only GRATITUDE for each and every blow, because it's how I finally fulfilled my Resolution; only now can I truly THRIVE and revel in BEING ME πŸ€“πŸ˜ŽπŸ‘ŒπŸ‡πŸ¦„

Fathom 47: Heartfelt Insights

 

Part 1: A Wish Come True πŸ™

  • Why I share such deeply (if not Pitiful) personal Development examples & the science of Insights πŸ’πŸ’«
  • Wishes as Heart Goals; how I applied this to my daily Tarot Reflection & current work 'Sitch' πŸ˜‹πŸ€”
    • Effectively I don't enjoy dining out with family, friends or work colleagues, but is this an issue to FixSHOULD I WISH TO? πŸ˜•πŸ™Š 
    • AHA! MTRUWISITBACCEPTED, unconditionally; it's NOT to be 'Normal' &/or enjoy dining out, it's to live my joy in whatever way I Choose πŸ₯ΉπŸ˜‡
    • I'm no longer willing to forfeit my sense of SSASS-Y self acceptance for the acceptance of others; it's just not worth it πŸ’―πŸ’©

Part 2: My Heart's Business & Business is Good ✊

  • Again, an ambition to role-model unapologetic self-exploration, an example of the process of expanding Awareness to enable better Decision Making (hopefully & theoretically) πŸ˜…πŸ™
  • A realisation of my Heart's sense of duty, it's job within my wholbeing is to lovunconditionally... and only now can I see how seriously it takes on that role  πŸ’ž
    • A Reflection on my life quickly enabled me to see that everything I've ever Felt is proof of this truth, loving every thought no matter how Distorted or Dysfunctional 😳
    • Finally Understanding my Heart's role is comforting & FREEING πŸͺ½

Fathom 46: A Worrisome Fundamental Attribution Error


Part 1: Wearying Worries 😨

  • An existential application of the Fundamental Attribution Error (FAE) πŸ€“
  • The interesting perspective on the tendency to Blame worrisome thoughts for an unhealthy accumulation of Stress, but is that the ACTUAL CAUSEπŸ€”
  • The Narrative we tell ourselves about a thought's MEANING, our ASSUMPTIONS about that meaning, and an ATTACHMENT to the narrative that compels us to act; trying to Control & prevent more uncomfortable thoughts seems more CAUSAL πŸ«£
    • My examples around an unexplained Headache & fickle Kittens πŸ˜…
  • We can't control our thoughts, but we can control our Actions
    • Choose to FLOAT, Survival through Inaction! πŸ€―🌊
    • Let the Brain do it's Braining without unnecessary stress; staying Safe & Well by allowing the thought to exist without the need to attach or to 'do anything' πŸ™πŸ˜‡

Part 2: Rewarding Worries 🀩

  • Let's leave the baggage behind & glimpse the silver lining! 🌈
    • A highly beneficial use for my 'Broken' Narrative 😲
    • Thinking that it is purely harmful, is yet another FAE! Animals that worry are more likely to Survive... πŸ’―
  • My worry WOKE ME UP, made me Aware of the Healing to be done; gave me PURPOSE πŸ’–
  • So why is that narrative now causing stress? πŸ€” 
    • My PURPOSE has changed, has shifted to Empowering Others through Coaching; I can't live them both! πŸ˜…πŸ€·‍♀️
    • My previous purpose served me well for a time; it certainly doesn't deserve to be Demonised πŸ˜‡πŸŒ 
  • My Higher Purpose could not have manifested without the previous one, which dragged my sorry ass through 40-years of undiagnosed neuro-Spicyness to authentic self Acceptance πŸ’©πŸ₯³

Universal Development: The Coaching Adventure

 

 Part 1: Introduction & My 'Why' πŸ™πŸ’– [3m 32s]


Part 2: What is Coaching & What Are The Benefits πŸ€”πŸ˜‡ [4m 52s]


Part 3: Three Components to How I Coach πŸ˜ŽπŸ‘‚[8m 13s]

Link to Facebook Page 

Full Transcript & Visuals πŸ“–πŸ€“

[Part 1]
Purpose
  • The purpose of this video is to cover the Why, What & How of Coaching with me, as well as defining the Benefits you can expect from undertaking this adventure! It also gives everyone an opportunity to get a feel for my style & personality so you can decide whether or not I’m the right coach for you.

Why (I Coach)

  • I believe every person carried unlocked potential. Beyond what we see on the surface, people are guided by deeper goals, values, and mindsets; when these are explored, real growth becomes possible. My ambition is to facilitate alignment between peoples’ conscious and subconscious thoughts, feelings, and intentions, empowering them to make awareness-led decisions and lead more fulfilling lives both personally and professionally.
  • Right, so what the hell does that mean?
    • All humans struggle from time to time. We get stuck in ‘in our ways’ and habits, or feel bound by obligations and social expectations; we self-sabotage, undermine our own goals, health & wellbeing.
  • After 6 years of coaching leaders at all levels (and we’re all leaders since we lead our own lives!), I find that supporting someone’s growth, seeing them lead more fulfilling lives, achieve in their personal and career goals, unleashing their true potential, is my ultimate reward. I love that coaching sessions provide the right environment and ask the right questions so people can do this for themselves! Giving them a sense of both control & empowerment.

[Part 2]

What (Is Coaching & What are the Benefits):

1.       What Is & Is NOT Coaching

    • The International Coaching Federation (ICF) is the primary entity that certifies and credentials the coaching community all over the World, and where I received my credential, and they define coaching as: "Partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential."
    • In layman’s terms, I’d personally describe it as ‘An adventure in self-exploration & discovery, equal parts fun and challenging.’
    • It’s just as important to clarify what coaching IS NOT: Any form of advice, mentoring, therapy, counselling, or a miracle cure for life issues.

2.       What Are The Benefits? Let’s highlight what’s in it for you!

    • Now let’s highlight what’s in it for you! The Top 5 Benefits & Improvements reported from clients I’ve had over the past 1-3 years are;
      • Self Awareness
      • Self Esteem / Worth
      • Leadership / Performance at Work
      • Fulfilling Relationships
      • Emotional Intelligence & Resilience
    • Have a look at my graphs and current clients’ quotes, if you’re interested in knowing more.
    • These are general benefits, but you can set any goals you choose, and it’ll become my job to ensure you stay on track to reach them. Goals can be long term or short term, you’ll always have complete control of our coaching arrangements.
    • I will also provide session notes that you can reflect on while working towards your goal(s). The notes also help us see your progress over time.

[Part 3]
How (I Coach)

For Transparency, I’ll Describe The 3 Main Components to HOW I Coach

  1. Firstly, it’s through providing a safe space for self-exploration, discovery & reflection. To help you understand what that looks like in practice, I’ll use an analogy.
    • Imagine that your mind is a huge mansion with hundreds of rooms, but you’re really only used to using a couple of those rooms. Some areas of this vast mansion are completely untouched and could be filled with all sorts of useful and beautiful things waiting to be discovered. Other rooms are ones that you may have intentionally or unintentionally closed off because you were afraid of what they held or didn’t find them useful at that time. I partner with clients to explore their own minds, their mansions, by asking them to choose which rooms to explore and by making rooms that feel uncomfortable safe to explore. Uncovering and practicing different thoughts patterns & mindsets can then give rise to different emotions and behaviours, allowing people to shift habits and achieve some of the other benefits I’ve already described along the way.
    • Importantly, I’ll remind everyone that COACHING IS NOT THERAPY. So, if something in your mansion needs significant fixing, I’m not the support you need for that, but we can certainly make minor upgrades and tweaks. This also means that if I sense there is something buried deep that’s preventing you from safe self-exploration I will ask your permission to be honest about my concerns and refer you to resources that can help.
  2. Speaking of permission, though #1 is creating space for self-discovery, coming in at a very close second is Challenging with Permission.
    • I have gained a bit of a reputation as a velvet sledgehammer, and it’s because I truly believe that all humans possess massive amounts of potential that goes untapped. To realise this potential & promote personal growth, most people need a bit of a nudge. As a coach, I’m that nudge in the form of someone who will be honest and direct, but fair, when I see or hear my clients getting in their own way.
    • To remain ethical, I will always seek permission to challenge your thinking because my clients understand that this process isn’t always comfortable! Think of me as a personal trainer for your mind, together we will challenge your thoughts, ideas & mindsets to build your inner strength and achieve better control over how those thoughts become actions or behaviours.
    • The final aspect of this ‘Challenge’ component is HOMEWORK. Between each session you will choose an intention &/or actions to promote focus and reflection on the key insights you generate, enabling you to practice new thinking patterns. Again, like body building, practicing new ways of thinking and experiencing life is what will facilitate your growth.
  3. The third and final aspect of HOW I coach involves a tiny bit of teaching.
    • I was trained to use a Neuroscience-based approach, which means I understand how the brain processes threats, rewards, and decision-making biases. My ‘teaching’ component is used to help you understand how the brain works in general, and why day-to-day struggles are not specific to any one person! I find this information allows people to reframe things in the context of their brain’s natural wiring. The brain does not always set us up for success, and this information gives us permission to cut ourselves some slack!
    • Since teaching is not coaching however, I stick to the following structure for our sessions to maximise both learning opportunities and coaching outcomes:
      • 45 Mins Coaching
      • 5-10 Mins Teaching
      • 5-10 Mins Reflecting on Wins & Opportunities
(Note at no point will I ever give ‘advice,’ though I raise any relevant points based on our coaching conversation, and may provide resources as appropriate)

The When’ 

Here’s where you decide! Are you ready to start your coaching adventure? Schedule a complimentary introductory coaching session to discuss your personal goals, ambitions & expectations. I’d be honoured to facilitate your achievements.


Fathom 45: Discovering The Driver

 

Part 1: Driving Lessons πŸ€“

  • The last (perhaps πŸ˜‰) of the Chariot-inspired analogies, focusing on the entity in the Driver's seat; while it's great to understand our various Horseys, the role of the DRIVER may be the most significant... lest our Chariot end up in the ditch... repeatedly. πŸ˜…πŸ’©
  • Back 16 years, it all started with 'The Watcher' introduced in The Power of Now ad, but HTF to accomplish this without judgment; despite my best efforts, functioning as a wholehealthy & skilled driver was beyond me for almost two decades. πŸ˜‡πŸ€·‍♀️
  • What DRIVES the Driver?! 
    • 'Coulds' & 'Shoulds' as key indicators πŸ”‘
    • Critical components for me include aligning with & living my: Purpose, Intention [Revamp coming soon! πŸŽ‰] & Values πŸ’ͺ
    • Essential behaviours for me to apply to my various 'horseys' to maintain my Wellbeing (yes, even when they're being little shits! πŸ˜‚πŸ€¦‍♀️):
      • Loving πŸ’ž
      • Accepting πŸ€—
      • Being Patient πŸ™
      • Rewarding πŸ₯•

Part 2: Sometime Smooth, Sometimes Swerving πŸ€ͺ

  • What do we do when Self Awareness isn't enough?! When all we're 'Aware' of is how shitty we're thinking, feeling & behaving, yet still unable to change it! 🀯😠
  • Tuning into what Rewards our Horseys can help, but make damn sure they are TRULY rewards and not just Perceived rewards that end in Guilt... otherwise we're in for a rather bumpy ride, and I'm still on that adventure. πŸ€ͺπŸ™ˆ  
  • For me, my #1 tool, the best I can Do, is SLOW DOWN; a simple expression for a complicated & difficult practice. ✋πŸ™
  • If Knowing doesn't become Doing... then no, awareness won't be enough to make fulfilling improvements. Still, there's NO SHAME in the occasional swerve, otherwise life would be rather boring; I'll happily settle for no regrets. πŸ˜ŽπŸ‘Œ

Fathom 44: Girls Just Want to Have Fun

Part 1: Random 'Funny' Thoughts; Health Indicator or Madness πŸ€ͺπŸ˜…πŸ€¦‍♀️

  • The things that keep me giggling to myself & why Internal Dialogue is a good mental health indicator 😎😜
  • Strap in for the heaps of crazy random shit that runs through my brain, usually whilst walking or exercising πŸ€£πŸ’©

Part 2: Show & Tell! πŸ‘€⛅😻

  • Reflecting on the Dizzy-driven Part 1, and why internal jokes are indeed best left Internal πŸ€·‍♀️
  • Sit back, relax & laugh as I show some of the best things my 'Tism is particularly enjoying at this point in my life's adventure πŸ’―πŸ”†
  • Fun & Existentialism... NOT mutually exclusive! 


Fathom 43: Big 'D' Energy

Big 'D' Energy Isn't Always As It Appears πŸ”‹πŸ˜‚

  • Intuitive knowing that whatever flavour of Neurodivergence I have must account for my supernatural Dizzy-ing energy 🀩πŸ€ͺ
  • An Atypical 'D'-Type living in a 'AAA'-Wired world; are my oversized circuits innate, am I simply a classically Conditioned American, or is it both!? πŸ€”
  • The perfect analogy for the Feedback that Demonised my passion & enthusiasm πŸ’‘πŸ’©
  •  In general, every Body / Battery have different capacities for different situations... things that sap our energy and things that recharge us! πŸͺ«⚡
  • How to do INTEND to use our energy, what brings our Energy a sense of purpose? πŸ™πŸ˜Ž

Fathom 42: Mulish Mind & Horsey Heart

 

Part 1: Distinct Humanity & Mulish Minds 🧠

  • The two things that make us distinctly human with the intention of exploring the issues and opportunities that arise by revisiting our Chariot. πŸŽπŸƒ
  • The SCARF Model! Why our brains stubbornly cling to certain triggers & the Dizzy-ing behaviours that can result. πŸ€ͺπŸ˜…
    • Threats make our Mules bolt, while rewards are the carrots they'll chase... whether we consciously want them to respond these ways or not. πŸ’₯πŸ₯•
    • My own example of taking shit personally & nearly constant anxiety, beyond all logic or Wellness-Based decision(s). πŸ’©πŸ˜³
  • There is no good/bad or right/wrong, there is only Observing & Understanding these behaviours so that we can start to put ourselves back in the Driver's seat. 
Take this SCARF ASSESSMENT to Better Understand the Mulish Mind πŸ€“


Part 2: Horsey Hearts & Keeping on Track πŸ™

  • Let's strap in, explore the Horsey Heart & what happens when it's not aligned with our Mule. πŸ€”
  • The interesting consideration that the Horsey Heart seems immune to the Experience Bias that can cripple the Mulish Mind. 😬
    • My humbling example of Daringly entering the dating pool again, taking the Risk of falling for my Husband despite the Trauma & Psychotic Episode that Quilts together my relationship history. πŸ’”πŸ’ž
  • Keeping these equines BALANCED is not easy, but remains a worthy effort; lest we derail our Chariot by succumbing to truly Purpose-defeating decisions or acting like miserable Pricks. πŸ¦”

Fathom 41: Eustress & Me-Stress

 


Good Stress is Still Stress! πŸ˜…πŸ’―

  • The stressors of positive change & gaslighting; conscious decisions to stay in a Wellness mindset πŸ˜‡πŸ’–
  • In a Tizzy & overwhelmed, in flux between the new home and work... Facilitating - My Happy Space... yet still stressful! πŸ€ͺ😎
  • A very naughty word... 'Just'... blah blah blah; it doesn't end well for the speaker or the listener πŸ˜…πŸ’©
  • EQ... Being both stressed & grateful is possible! πŸπŸ™

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NOTE: Click 'FEED VIEW' to see pictures from specific posts as the build & move-in progresses πŸ˜‡πŸ€©