Episode 38: Transformative Taste Testing

 

Part 1: A Tasty Epiphany & Saccharine Serenity

• A significant insight pulled together everything I've been working through lately, my 'Seasons', exploration of Acceptance & remembering that I'm American... a decidedly different taste from Kiwis 🥝💥
• Appreciating a period of clarity, finally able to work with the tough Feedback I got & sort through the chaos in my brain 🙏
• Ah Ha! Small wonder I'm not to everyone's 'taste' (even my own from time to time) 😅💩
• The flavour of my Heart intensity, passion, it's quirky love languages... & it's formidable persistence 💝💔💞

Part 2: Saliferous Spirit

• I'm a whimsical salty spirit! And this taste is bourn of embracing my intuition, Knowing, core Values & Spirituality 🤤
• Aligned to my WHOLE Self, who I want & aspire to be... the 'Higher Self'... who feels connected to my purpose & sees beyond current struggles 🥳
• Forever treading the fine line between packing a tasty punch, being too salty & accepting that I will be both at once depending on the people/situation 🪽🧂
• A 20th century watch-out regarding the next topic, our Tiny Human Egos, as well as a total diversion into particle physics & my interpretation of the Energy that connects everyone and everything in the Universe🤓🤯

Part 3: Spicy Superiority

• Strap in for the Spice of Survival Mode! My Status-, Fairness-, Certainty-driven Ego forgets about the aforementioned connectedness to the Universe 😅😎
• Spicy Ego, Spicy Life! Few people find this appetising or easy to stomach, and it inevitably inspires shame... I turn into a complete Asshole 💣💩
• Yikes, conceding my ego doesn't give a shit about my values or higher purpose, and this is how I lose my way... why I spiral; but knowing this enables me to turn it around! 🙏
• NOTE: I wrote about this in a poem years ago to help me distinguish between my 'i' / small self and 'I' / Higher Self
• A TASTY MEAL NEEDS ALL FLAVOURS IN THE RIGHT BALANCE... I need to consciously Slow Down, ask for feedback and do frequent taste tests to get the seasoning right for any given situation 💖 
• Switch from ghost pepper hot Limbic Brain (see SCARF Model below) to Prefrontal Cortex deliciousness (i.e. bring in all the spices!)
• NOTE: I didn't record a 4th part 😂👍

Episode 37: I'm Afraid of American(s)

 

• Let's have a light & fun one! And no, this is not about Spiteful America-bagging 🥳🤦
• Passionate, intense, neuro-diverse... Or simply American?! 🤔😅
• Understanding my home-coming struggles in a new light 😇🙏
• The part the 'Ego' has to play, cultural nuances of Ego-development, and some foreshadowing of next week's exploration! 🔗
• Remembering why I left & the person I was, and knowing the pain that caused was worth it... New Zealand healed me, bringing me closer to who I want to be 💖

Epidsode 36: Seasons of Summer

 

Part 1: The Feedback

• Strap in folks, this one is one hell of a rollercoaster as I navigate a 'case in point' of aforementioned 'objective & subjective evidence of my lack of Normalcy, and the most fatefully timed Feedback I've received to date ⏰🤯
• Shame? Acceptance? Anger?! It's all there ... Whee!! 😃💩

Part 2: Discerning My Tastes

• Perhaps my first sense of authentic Self Compassion 💖
• What's well-seasoned for me versus what's well-seasoned for others 😋🤮
• Uncovering the insecurity of being 'Too Much' via tapping it out of me on a random beach in Hawaii, and coming to grips with the shame-sabotage-spiral it led to in my present... BLEAK!✊😅

Part 3: Re-aligning to Gratitude & Self Belief

• An unexpected upside of Resentment 🤔
• My realisation that entering deliberate mindsets, like while Coaching, allows me to naturally adjust my energy by getting out of my head & away from my own BULLSHIT 🤠🐮
• SLOW DOWN... PAUSE... That's my only hope to consciously Choose how I can think, feel and act in more healthy and balanced ways; to stop the shame-sabotage-spiral 🤔💭

Episode 35: Bolstering Blind Spots

 

Part 1: From Organic Chemistry to Enlightenment

• How the consistent insistence that we use observation & deduction as budding scientists foreshadowed my future existential fervor 🤓
• My first blog, Analytical Ramblings of Scientific Mind, as an unintentional means of providing myself feedback through this observation-deduction process! ✍
• Feedback is FUNDAMENTAL, for ourselves & others 😉 
• Ahhhh, the nuance of judgments and our brain's vulnerability to common decision-making biases
• Building self-awareness by exploring blind spots through deliberate reflection, tools, requesting feedback and/or receiving feedback (whether we wanted it or not) 😅
• 'Knowing' feedback is a gift 💩🎁

Part 2: Spiritual Will & Neurological Niggles

• Reminiscing on Summer 1.0 & how horrific heartbreak instigated the adventure of self-discovery 💔💣
• Being The Watcher & how to the process started 👀🔍
• Course correction by consistently asking myself the questions: 🤔
• "Is this how a mentally and emotionally healthy human behaves?" 
• "Will I be proud of myself tomorrow?"
• The neuroscience of changing habitual behaviours, why it's so difficult and how to overcome the challenge 💪

Part 3: The Fine Art of Offering Feedback Sans Unfair Judgment

• The gift of feedback & how it facilitates course-correcting blinds spots for ameliorating awareness, healthy discipline and freedom from self-limiting patterns 🙏 
• Exploring the nuance between Deduction ☝& Judgment 👎
• The neuroscience behind being a judgy prick & the ability to prevent it from becoming a harmful and/or unjust emotion(s) or behaviour(s) 🎉

Part 4: Providing Feedback With More Velvet Than Sledgehammer

• Learning to give the gift of feedback with more Compassion 💞
• Blind spots don't deserve to be demonised, they deserve to be developed 🌱
• Giving and/or receiving feedback will never be comfortable, but it can always be worth it 💯 
• Effectively using diabolical feedback & resisting the urge to perceive providers as absolute assholes 😘